SEX:ED - A SEXUAL REVOLUTION
"Christ has set us free to live a free life. So take your stand! Never again let anyone put a harness of slavery on you." Galatians 5:1
A couple weeks ago marked the conclusion of our Sex:Ed Series. Week one we learned that until we put God in his proper order our sexuality will be out of order. The meaning of that statement is that we make investments in it but we never get anything in return. Week two we learned that God has a plan for our sexuality. He designed it, built it and has a plan for it. His plan is called purity- whether you are single, dating or married purity is important in our life. Last week we learned about sex in the context of marriage. We don't disrespect and violate the purity of our marriage, in turn we serve and love one another.
This week the topic was A sexual resolution. Pastor Jesse and Angela answered 5 questions that they received over the topic of Sex ED. Our society has gone from asking questions and then making a decision to acting and asking questions after and having to live with our consequences and regrets. We are built to ask questions. A Lot of times we ask the wrong questions to get the answers we are looking for. The key is to ask the right questions in order to get the right answers. We have a lot of questions without answers so we go to the wrong source so in turn we get the wrong answers. God is big enough to handle our questions if we are big enough to handle his answers.
The first question was the difference between admiring someone verse lusting after them. Pastor Jesse went on to say that our world is full of a lot of grey verse black and white. Luckily the Old Testament is full of black of white. The definition of admire is to serve, love, and to have the focus be on how to benefit them. Lust on the other hand the focus is on how to benefit you. They become an object for your pleasure. God gave you those feelings for a reason, it's what you do with them that makes the difference.
The second question was is it possible to regain your purity after a bad season in your life. The good news is yes! 2 Corinthians states "that anyone who belongs to Christ has become a new person. The old life is gone; a new life has begun!" God makes ALL things new, There are two stages to this process. They are Justification and Sanctification. In justification you move from self effort to God's effort. He looks down and sees Jesus. Then sanctification is building you into the image of Jesus. In a moment you become pure when you go to Jesus and ask for forgiveness.
The third question was how to break free from pornography. It is nearly impossible to change when you are covered in shame. Shame tries to put your identity in your sin , but Jesus wipes you clean. The best way to stay accountable and rid of that shame is to confess to one another so you can be healed from the sin. Find someone who is a little farther along in their spiritual journey and look to them to be your mentor. You would be surprised the amount of people you develop a relationship with who may be going through the same struggle or had already gone through it. That is the great thing about crews is you have people surrounding you helping you heal.
The fourth question was a very common question which was how far is too far in the area of sex before marriage. The question Pastor Jesse challenged us to ask ourselves is "are you led by the spirit of God and is your significant other doing the same?" If not maybe it is time to re-evaluate the relationship. God built you have natural emotional and physical needs but you have to "think" with the right body part. One of the love languages is physical touch so it is completely normal to long for that feeling but you have to ask yourself are you thinking with your head and heart or your body? . Sexual sin is one of worst sins you could be involved with because it is sin against your own body. A Lot of times people use their body to force a connection that wouldn't normal be there. So when the physical fades there is no real connection to fall back on.
The last question Pastor Jesse and Angela answered was If you have been abused, how do you get free from the pain and live a pure life. The definition of abuse is the misuse of something that was intended to be good. Abuse makes God angry and is not okay. You are not your past, what had happened to you , and you did not deserve it. God wants to take your mess and turn it into a message. Hurt people, hurt people. They key to overcoming this obstacle and the pain that is associated with it is forgive. Forgive even though they don't deserve it. Do it for you, not them. Unforgiveness leaves us in a loop causing us to relive the pain constantly . Romans 12:2 says "Do not conform to the pattern of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind. Then you will be able to test and approve what God’s will is—his good, pleasing and perfect will." God will renew you all you have to do is lean on Him and trust in His promises.